A Rant ~ All dogs go to heaven, and so do suicides

Obviously, another controversial thought has wandered through and I am compelled to write something about it.
This is actually the result of two separate posts today: one about dogs going to heaven and the other about the disposition of the souls of people who kill themselves. More, they were both about the mean things people say to the bereaved.
Having experienced the one, because people say things, often thinking they are helping, but without thought, when you lose a pet. And studiously kept the secret of the other, because people would have said mean things. I want to say a few words.
I remember a few years ago a wonderful email went around the spam circuit showing a series of reader board signs, a debate between a evangelical church on one side of the road an a Catholic church on the other. The first was "All Dogs Go To Heaven" on the Catholic church, and then a rebuttal from the other side of the street, and it went on several panels from there.
Of course I have an opinion about that! If my love objects aren't going to heaven, or Heaven, I'm not interested in whatever it is. Maybe it comes from Reading "The Bridge Across Forever" too young and being impressed with radical thought, but I don't think so. To my way of thinking, if love is involved, the Divine, by whatever name, cannot be exclusionary.
Yes, I am aware of the argument about animals not having souls, but having loved and been loved by a series of wonderful beings clad in fur, I cannot agree. A canine can certainly be a finer friend than many people I know. Felines, well they express their loving natures differently and still, better than some human folks. Don't even start me on the equine set (although I've known a couple who behaved like mean girls, but I blamed their humans). I will let you who have reptile and avian friends form your own opinions, but won't exclude any one else's love objects either. I've lived with a bird (corvidea) and have friends who have snakes, but they really aren't my choice for urban spaces. Still, I asert that they go to Heaven, too.
Now for the other subject. I was reading a post about the mean things people said to the parents of a young man who killed himself, as they were leaving the funeral. Seriously "he's in Hell", "his soul will never rest". WTF?? Some people' beliefs are a little frightening.
Suicide has got to be the most difficult thing I can imagine. Just last fall my neighbor lost a child to what may have been suicide, or an accidental overdose (aren't they by definition accidental?). The pain of that loss was so hard to see. In our minds the loss of any child is wrong in the natural order, but the added stigma of it maybe being a suicide?? Just that someone would rather think of their child as a drug user than having taken their own life is so sad.
Many years ago my then boyfriend died in a car accident with his best friend. It was catastrophic and it was impossible to determine who had been driving, let alone what caused the wreck.
For over 25 years I did not tell anyone that it wasn't an accident, he had left me a note. At the time, I could not have given that note to anyone. His parents were devastated as it was. I knew he was a much wanted younger child with a much older sibling, but didn't know until visiting with them weeks afterward that I was the only girl he had ever brought home. How could I add to the tragedy by letting them know he was so unhappy he wanted to die? By their beliefs he would have been consigned to Hell, they would never see him again, and he would have had to be re-interred outside the family cemetery plot ~ outside the whole cemetery.
At the time I was young and confused about a lot of things, but I knew that it would have been cruel to take what little consolation reuniting in an afterlife could be. I have always believed in something, and it was not well defined then, but now I would say it this way ~ all souls return to God, in whatever framework you see IT. To me, the Deity is all encompassing Love, and we are pieces of that, manifesting it to some degree or another in our everyday lives.
God is, God loves, we are as little or as much of that as we can handle expressing at any given time and our furry friends, and the people who can't see that they are also part of that still get to reunite with the totality when they are done on this plane.